Monica, Palo's mama
Life; all the responsibilities, moments both good and bad, tragic and amazing, can either weigh me down or lift me up. In learning how to live again, a new life that doesn't include my son, life in general can be all the more challenging.
Simple responsibilities, like going to get my car fixed become overloaded with emotions. So, what I do is, whatever I possibly can to mitigate my angst, and my heartache. One of the most helpful things I've done for myself is to create structure in my life. My structure involves a daily routine which in turn provides a sense of certainty. This certainty helps me to break the daily load of life's responsibilities into smaller pieces. Pieces that were once monolithic boulders become movable by myself. Thriving and learning to live with loss means I have to be an active participant in how I create my life. Lord knows, it ain't easy. But in order to have a life worth living without Palo, it's necessary.