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I see parents trying to make their kids more independent and brave and social all the time by telling them to be so. "don't cry, you are a big girl already", "come on, the pool in not that deep, be brave, jump!", "share! other kids want to play with it too, you have to be nice!"
So often we try to impose what we think is right on the kids assuming without our guidance they will be little savages running around ungraciously disturbing other people.
In reality our job as parents is to provide a safe harbour and a strong connection for our kids to feel safe and secure enough to let all the natural goodness in them unfold and blossom.
We have to remember that they are all those things we want them to be already by default. They are good. They are kind. They are so much more! If only we'd just let them be.